Almost all of us go on dates at some stage of our lives. I am sure we all have jaw dropping, romantic, happy and very compelling and even very sad stories to tell. Dating is a keen initiator in the human mating process and it helps us to get to know someone beyond just friendships. It help us to create a unbreakable bond with someone. After watching an interesting show that brings 10 males and 10 females together to find their perfect matches, MTV Are You The One? I have realized the challenges and successes of dating and decided to share some tips that would help to make the process easier for some of us.
1. Do not give up on love
We go on dates and when they turn out bad, we decide…oh I will never ever want to date again!. We should not give up on love that easily, nothing good comes easy and we have to go through a few rough patches to find “The One“ so lets be optimistic and willing to give things a try and be ready when another opportunity presents itself.
2. Do not let your friends ruin how you feel about someone
Have you ever been on a date and things did not go exactly as you wanted it to but it did not go bad at all and you start telling your friends all about it and they’re like…”nah girl he ain’t the one”? If your answer is yes…well guess what…we are all humans and we all make mistakes, we are not perfect! and we should be able to follow our guts and tell if something could actually come out of it being with someone and give that person a chance. It is okay to give second chances. We all deserve them. So in essence follow your gut feeling and decide for yourself.
3. Try to be open-minded
When going out on dates, try to be open-minded and be prepared for anything. When you decide how you want the date to turn and it can be very disappointing sometimes. Just go with the flow of things, again it is important to note that each person is unique and have different personalities.
4. Do not go into a relationship with baggage from your previous relationship.
Whether we were the one to call it quits and we were on the receiving end. We tend to carry baggage from the relationship, particularly when we are on the receiving end of the break-up. We put up a wall, that is almost impossible for anyone to get over, we become so private and we keep everything all bundled up inside. That is not healthy when you are going out there to look for someone who has done nothing to you. It is unfair to them and it is unhealthy for you. It is best you take all the time we need to get past what happened in our previous relationships and mend before we go back out there dating again.
5. It is okay to have standards, but please let’s be realistic!
Now of course we all want “The One” to have a few keen features and personality traits, hence that is why we call them the one; simply because they are what we are looking for. But having ridiculously unrealistic expectations is just not good at all. Remember that perfect guy list you made back when you were younger? yea? well sometimes the one hardly fits at least five things on that list. When you get to know someone and you really starts to like them and something great can happen, you have to accept them for who they are.
6. Be yourself on a date!
We buy the most expensive shoes or outfits to go out on dates and yes that catches the eyes, but you really want to focus on the person’s heart. At the end of day, that is what really matters and what is more important. Dress comfortably, don’t pretend to like something when you really don’t. Do not act as if you know everything when you really do not.
7. Pay attention to how you talk to each other
Instead of focusing on what the person is wearing. Here is a good idea! why not focus on what the person is saying…? by doing this you get to know how much alike you and the person really are, your similar interests, your dislikes, does this person have a goal? does this person want to be something in life? what this person values? All of this and more are some of the keen things we should pay attention to on dates. This leads into my next tip!
8. Consider dating someone who you have been friends with.
They say friends know you better than anyone else and they know what is required for your happiness. Why not date someone you have been friends with? There is already something to build on right there.
9. Drop the high expectations
A relationship should be a 50/50 partnership between two people. Do not expect the other person to give 70 while you only give 30 and vice versa. It will never go well that way.
10. Think with your brain not your heart
Examine things for yourself, see what works for you and what does not. Don’t let all the butterflies in your tummy cause you to make wrong decisions. Think and re-think things.
If these tips are not enough and you want to see how it all goes down on a screen. You may watch MTV “Are You The One”?What I love about #AYTO is that the 10 males and 10 females who have no idea who their match is and they will have rounds to find out. It is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. You must be wondering though, well how did they find their matches? Well the 20 contestants went an extensive match-making process and were given the chances to to make a real and genuine love connections, all of the contestants have struggled with love/relationship before. Don’t forget to tune in to “Are You The One” to see how it all unfolds!
They keep you updated on the show, get to know the cast and see preview clips. predict who you think are the perfect matches. You may also catch the episodes every Wednesdays at 10/9c on MTV to play the online guessing game alongside the cast “Play AYTO“ live for a chance to win a TRIP FOR TWO TO HAWAII!!! You will be asked questions about the episodes so be sure to pay attention!
Watch Episode #1 here to see for yourself.
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Today’s post is sponsored by MTV, but my love for their show “Are You The One?” is all my own!